"RallyWrench" (rndlitebmw)
01/27/2020 at 00:49 • Filed to: fuck
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"RallyWrench" (rndlitebmw)
01/27/2020 at 00:49 • Filed to: fuck | 2
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Get some really, really bad news and just want to go beat the everliving fuck out of your car for awhile to forget about everything? I do. It’s not for the Kobe news, though that made today quite bad enough for a Californian born and raised with the Lakers. One of my very favorite people, whom I’ve been privileged to know, look up to, and play music with for 30 years, was just diagnosed with brain cancer and is in a bad way. He’s an incredible drummer, deeply influential to me, his style not dissimilar to Niel Peart’s, or clearly influenced by it. And now weeks later the same disease comes for him, having now taken the left side of his body away. Fuck that with a broken drumstick. Though I imagine him making Monte Python “I’m not dead yet” jokes in a terrible accent, as he is wont to do, I just.. fucking... can’t... take it right now. Tears for a friend.
Needed to vent, apologies. Rough day for many today. Hug your family. I'm not a religious man, but Godspeed is a word that carries special weight. Godspeed, Tom, I hope to jam soon.
ClassicDatsunDebate
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 01:25 |
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Tell me more about the music.
atfsgeoff
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 01:28 |
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Now is the time to go do some crazy shit with Tom. Clock is ticking, but at least you have a grace period. Lots of people lose their best friends to a sudden accident and never have a chance to say goodbye.
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RallyWrench
> atfsgeoff
01/27/2020 at 01:40 |
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I fully intend to drive the 7 hours+ necessary to get to him and his family as soon as I possibly can when he’s out of hospital. Every summer for quite literally my entire life we have congregated in the Sierras to play music and howl at the moon, and I deeply hope we’ll be doing plenty of that. Thank you.
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RallyWrench
> ClassicDatsunDebate
01/27/2020 at 01:54 |
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Every summer for my entire life there’s been an annual gathering of friends in the Sierras, started before I was born and now on its 3rd generation. I was taken out there in a basket at 6 months old, in 1980. We drag a couple of generators and all our instruments out into the woods and jam for 4 days. It’s pure magic, the centerpiece and high point of my year. Tom is about 15 years older than me and was the monster drummer of my youth, going up there with my dad, just tagging along with a snare and hi-hat as a young kid, then they let me bring my full kit out when I was about 13. The guys call him Tommy Solid or Tommy TomTom. Deeply influential as I grew up and into my playing, I’d always want to practice all year to make sure I could hang with him here. Mostly rock and roll, lots of The Band and Tom Petty, etc, as well as originals. I t’s been a true joy to play with him for so long and I can’t imagine not doing that again. Thanks for giving me a reason to expand on it, this is a powerful thing for me. This is the scene, it’s just the best.
pip bip - choose Corrour
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 02:18 |
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yup, cousin of mine has 12 months to live, breast cancer
shop-teacher
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 05:24 |
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Don’t sit on making that visit happen. My mom was gone in a week when we found out she had cancer. My one genuine regret in life, is not telling her my wife was pregnant with her first grandbaby. We found out in the middle of that week, and had a cute way planned to tell her a few days later, but she didn't make it that long.
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shop-teacher
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 05:25 |
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Yes. I know that feeling well. When the world makes you feel like a caged animal.
Snuze: Needs another Swede
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 06:06 |
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Im sorry to hear about Tom.
TheRealBicycleBuck
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 06:52 |
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As others have said, make the last days count. Sorry for your upcoming loss.
In th e meantime, go make a car scream (but don’t accidentally take yourself out in the process).
davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 10:07 |
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Damn... I’m sorry to hear it.
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davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 10:08 |
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Wow, fantastic.
DipodomysDeserti
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 11:02 |
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Sorry to hear that, bud. Thoughts for yourself and your buddy. Good reminder to take nothing for granted.
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ClassicDatsunDebate
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 11:30 |
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That is incredibly awesome. What great memories. I know how music connects us an even more so when you’re creating it.
I’m reminded of a Cohen poem “His Masters Voice”
After listening to Mozart (which I often did)
I would always carry a piano
up and down Mt. Baldy
and I don’t mean a keyboard
I mean a full size grand piano
made of cement
Now that I am dying
I don’t regret a singl e step
It reminds me that sometimes shit gets hard and it’s easier NOT to do something. Call a friend or accept an invitation or haul a Marshall stack into the forest. But in the end all we have is the memories of what we did.
Thanks for sharing.
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RallyWrench
> shop-teacher
01/27/2020 at 20:57 |
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I’m so sorry! Nothing you did wrong , but I imagine that leaves a heavy feeling. I’m sure you make sure she lives on in memory. Too easy to be hard on ourselves after the fact, thinking of what we’d have done differently. Even though I/we don’t even yet know the severity or full prognosis yet I have a sense of urgency about it that’s hit me hard, so I’m already figuring when I can hit the road. Thank you.
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RallyWrench
> ClassicDatsunDebate
01/27/2020 at 21:03 |
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Thanks for the chance to share. What a great poem, it resonates! Music and cars are the connecting tissue of my life, but music carries an emotional connection so far above and beyond cars that I can’t even describe it. All the more special because I don’t get to indulge in it very often. Thanks again.
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RallyWrench
> TheRealBicycleBuck
01/27/2020 at 21:06 |
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Hoping to, thank you. Already planning how/when I can hit the road. Our annual mountain jam is in July, and I hope like hell he’s there, but I feel the need to get to him and all our friends now .
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RallyWrench
> DipodomysDeserti
01/27/2020 at 21:09 |
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Thank you, it’s been an oddly emotional day. A sobering reminder to address some rough edges and reduce stress myself, and cherish the people we make memories with . I hope like hell he’s jamming behind a kit with us come summer, but I’ve gotta get to him soon.
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RallyWrench
> pip bip - choose Corrour
01/27/2020 at 21:10 |
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Fuck, I’m so sorry. Hope you send it with her in meantime, all the best.
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RallyWrench
> davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
01/27/2020 at 21:13 |
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It’s straight up magic. My annual reset button. No cars, no cell service, no bullshit, just the mighty Sierra Nevada and a few thousand watts of rock and roll.
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RallyWrench
> davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
01/27/2020 at 21:15 |
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Thank you, it’s been hitting a little hard. Weird emotions today, balancing powerlessness with glimmers of hope. I just want to see him soon.
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RallyWrench
> Snuze: Needs another Swede
01/27/2020 at 21:16 |
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Thank you, I appreciate it. Rough day, hoping for good news going forward.
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shop-teacher
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 22:03 |
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Hey, it’s life. My mom would understand. Somehow in that crazy week, my wife and I got to spend a really wonderful afternoon with just the three of us in the hospital. I will forever be grateful for that time I got to spend with her. I’m not a religious person either, but her spirit is always with us.
Anyways, you’re welcome. We’re here for you on our own way. Reach out anytime. You can always email me if you want, woodshop00@gmail.com.
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davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
> RallyWrench
01/27/2020 at 23:22 |
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Sounds like heaven.
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pip bip - choose Corrour
> RallyWrench
01/28/2020 at 05:59 |
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thank you
CaptDale - is secretly British
> RallyWrench
02/24/2020 at 01:42 |
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I am really sorry to hear about your loss. Always here if you need anything.